(Though to be fair, the person who said this was very happy that I'd provided them with a lump of steel to make their pans work with their induction cooker so they could make dinner.)
"Thank you good sir!", while polite, is not something I'm terribly happy to hear directed at me.
Otherwise known as "Rock, meet the Hard Place. You go over there, and I'll stand between you."
HRT, and trans people Show more
(On the other hand, a number of my trans friends with whom I get on very well are pretty persistently saying "why aren't you on HRT, just take matters into your own hands and start already", and (quite validly) pointing out that waiting is generally considered to be a bad idea.)
HRT, and cis people Show more
While self-medicating HRT would arguably solve the problem of not being on HRT, I then have to choose between not telling all my really close cis friends, and missing out on all the validation and support that they'd provide for getting to "a big milestone in the transition process", or telling them and then constantly having to justify myself and argue about the safety of taking medication off-prescription.
Oh okay, turns out I just needed "xinput set-button-map", not a full Xorg.conf. That's a relief.
It's the year 2019 and I'm having to write an Xorg.conf to make a laptop's touchpad behave correctly...
Hmph, I hope changing my name with my domain registrars isn't going to require jumping through too many hoops.
trans communities. Show more
I think the sad thing about online trans communities is that everyone is so used to being attacked, or are overstressed, or are trying to avoid giant trauma issues or in the middle of dysphoria attacks that theres a self perpetuating crab bucket mentality where people will inevitably jump on each other with bad faith assumptions about any posts people make.
Large scale community is almost impossible without continual effort from everyone to go on good faith.
I misspelled "demons" as "daemons". This definitely says something about me but I'm not sure I want to contemplate what exactly.
Today's challenge: determining whether "cheers, mate" is a judgement of your gender presentation or just someone saying thanks.
It would not surprise me if the backend for this site has some utterly terrifying method of checking whether an email address looks valid or not which includes checking the text after the last period in the string against a whitelist of expected extensions.
Either way, please note the table behind me, and its currently flipped state.
As far as I can tell, either the registration page doesn't like my email address because I tried to set it to ehiccard@<domain> (I have a wildcard recipient set up for the domain) and their system doesn't like the user part, or they don't like the fact that the domain part didn't have a """normal"""-looking extension like .com or .uk (and is instead a considerably younger gTLD).
I'm travelling outside of the UK in the next couple of months, so I've been advised to get an EHIC card, so if I break a leg it doesn't cost me the other one to pay for getting the first fixed.
So I go to the online portal, and attempt to create an account on the registration page...
Subtooting elsewhere Show more
Gonna leave this one here; it's worth re-reading every once in a while.
As a corollary to this, a few nights ago a friend put my hair into pleats, and I had to put quite a bit of effort into not falling asleep. Very calming.
Reclusive trans girl on the internet. From the mystical land known as Scotland.
Frequently anxious but mostly just confused.
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